It’s understandable that everyone meets new people, yet that hardly means that the old people should be forgotten or ignored. But what hurts the most is disinterest. And then what is the guarantee that the new person will never be ignored because someone else has come up.
The person doing this kind of thing (consciously or unconsciously) should at least give it a thought. So what if everything is happening unconsciously, a conscious thought needs to be given to this. Otherwise there’ll come a time, when it’s too late to do anything. A balance can easily be formed, but of course with effort and help.
Any relationship be it a working one, the one with a friend or a parent or a soul mate, needs working for it. An arrival of a new person may loosen the ties a bit, but it can be worked upon to strengthen them. The main part being, the interest, the zest, the need and the work should come from both sides. A single sided attempt just brings more hurt.
The loosened bonds shouldn’t be left in that state for a long time. They keep on unfolding and one day the ties are severed. As soon as this comes to light, action really needs to be taken.
And letting go of everything shared without an effort feels wrong and painful to such an extent as if your heart was ripped apart in two.
The worst feeling is when everything happens in front of your eyes. Distance soothes sometimes, however little.
my 2 pennies worth thots here :
ReplyDeletesometimes its not people who change, sometimes is the circumstances which makes them take the steps they do.
there's always space for a lot of people, arrival of a new one just calls for a bit of space and time, once the new entrant has settled down, relations with the old assume as if they were never gone ....
and finally, probably, its not the other person in whose life someone new has made an entry, who has changed, it could be us who have changed because someone new has entered in the other person's life ...... think about it :)